Re: getting to the point I'm no fun anymore

"bukvich@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
" <bukvich@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
>
> Going all out is risky in the first place because then failing is even
> more horrible, and in the second place it takes all your energy and
> who knows what sort of op****tunity might come along next while you are
> too tired to go running after it. This is why skipping rope is
> worthwhile. You do the 2000 skippers and then you are too spent to
> even consider going all out after anything. 

So you're tired enough to keep you from going after some other
op****tunity without the risks of going after the first one. Sounds like
a plan.
 
> > Agreed. However, entirely apart from how you feel about your partner
> > there are things you can do that make it more enjoyable for all
> > concerned. If you want it to be more enjoyable for all concerned.
> > And of course there are practical considerations. If you spend two
> > hours every day having fun doing *** stuff, that's as much time out
> > of your day as a long commute. More enjoyable, but does it fit into
> > your long-term goals?
> 
> Depends *who* the two hours is with.

If you're really doing american tantra, it will be like exercise or
s****ts. Sure, you'd rather exercise with somebody special, and you'd
rather play tennis with someone you love, but....  Tantra is easier when
it's exercise with fellow students who have nothing much at stake except
carrying out the wor****p.

>  You could forget about long-term
> goals altogether. Do you remember what it was like to be a teenager?

Gods yes. I was obsessed with what it all meant. If she had *** with me
and then with somebody else, did it mean there was something wrong with
me? Something wrong with her? Was I supposed to get in a fight with him
over it? What would she do if I "won"? If I "lost"? And the girls were
busy keeping score too. I think the biggest drama was: She gets in a
fight with her boyfriend. He's upset when he leaves. He has an auto
accident and dies. She could obsess over that for years. Surprising how
often that exact story happened.

Being a teenager is wasted on teens. But there's no guarantee if we
could do it over knowing what we know now, that we'd do it much better.